Every day, the decisions you take shape your life.

Updated: Feb 23



The headline probably sounds cliched, and you've probably read it before, but it's accurate.


Take a moment to re-read the heading, for it is not only accurate, but it can also be very effective if you let it lead you.


Any day acts become patterns, and often people develop the habit of referring harshly about themselves. That one bad habit will prevent you from fully appreciating life.


Wouldn't it be great if you could draw a line in the sand and stop talking about yourself negatively?


“I am optimistic and trusting in my skills and my life.”


And it all begins like that. Repeat the crucial phrase to yourself.


“I am optimistic and trusting in my skills and my life.”


It will take some practice and you must be serious about it. It's up to you to believe it.


Easy, positive routines will help you increase your self-esteem and morale. Three illustrations are shown below.


Example No. 1


Often people are unable to applaud themselves because they don't want to seem disrespectful. Arrogance is when you brag for yourself to others, but self-praise is not arrogance. It's an act of self-nurturing.


Plants are known to prosper when they are given constructive reinforcement, such as when people talk to them with kindness or when soft music is played for them. You are cultivating your precious inner blossom with self-praise. Be gentle with yourself. After years of hearing "can't," "shouldn't," and "don't," you need your support and affirmation.


My best friend and I used to spend hours role-playing and acting out fantasy scenes from novels, such as circuses, pirates and sea creatures, cowboys and Indians, and so on. Anything and everything was possible for us to envision. Since we were shown our shortcomings and all of the things that we "should and shouldn't" be doing, our role-playing reduced and then ceased after we entered kindergarten.


Young children are always seen and heard being incredibly optimistic towards themselves, simply because they have not yet been taught that they are not as wonderful as they are.


Self-praise is all about undoing all of the detrimental conditioning over the years. It's a new habit that you create for yourself.


When you finish every activity, repeat this clear affirmation to yourself. Consider the following scenario:


When I first wake up in the morning. - "I am optimistic and trusting in my skills and my destiny."


“I am hopeful and optimistic in my life and abilities,” I say when I finish brushing my teeth.


“I am hopeful and optimistic in my life and abilities,” I said when I finished my lunch.


Example No. 2


Take note about all the positive things you do every day, such as listening to others, smiling at a stranger, nodding to a neighbor, delivering a supportive greeting, and assisting a friend. Recognize all of the things you do that have a good impact on others.


Reviewing your acts at the end of the day and writing down each good action you took is a simple routine that can improve your self-esteem and motivation.


Example No. 3


Consider what you most wanted to know from someone when you were a child. What you wanted to say, not what others really said to you. “You should do it,” for example. “I have confidence in you.” “You are incredible.”


Instead of microscopically observing and dwelling on the shortcomings and imperfections (which we all have), remember the magic that is you when you look in the mirror. Freddie Mercury's large teeth were mocked at the time, but they became part of his iconic portrait. The beholder is the judge of beauty. Love yourself and tell yourself the things you've always wanted to know.


It will seem cheesy at first, but once you believe it, it will become second nature. And you are capable of doing whatever you put your mind to. You have the ability to trust in yourself. You're incredible. You're simply not used to trusting in yourself, but if you make this a normal routine, you'll be surprised by how strong you are.


People are incredible. We're just incredible. It's incredible that human life will live on a rock spinning through space. And it's crazy how much time and effort we spend in our lives undermining our self-esteem and morale with derogatory self-talk.


Self-defeating self-talk is incredibly adaptable. Negative feelings you have as a child and a youth are not the same as negative feelings you have as an adult. People can be harmed by negativity in many forms throughout their lives.

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